Monday, October 02, 2006

What has feminism done for you lately?

I was tagged by Scout at Harper-Valley blog to post today on the topic of "5 Things Feminism Has Done For Me", so here goes:

1. Education. I'm currently completing a PhD in geography - a discipline which is still hugely lopsided in terms of male faculty. My research is qualitative; in large part informed by feminism. I work in the subdiscipline of cultural-historical geography with focus on femininities and masculinities and their evolutions through space and time, as specific to place. My doctoral committee happens to be all-female, which is a first-time experience for each of the members. My work is very currently feminist in that it does not look at gender in terms of only women's experiences. It examines men's experiences, as well as all the accompanying intersections in the web of race, class, and (dis)ability, etc. This is one of the most widely misunderstood aspects of feminism today - the fact that the very nature of feminism is, in fact, INCLUSIVE. Our work contests exclusion of any sort.

2. Reproductive Choice. I was able to choose when and how many children I would have. I'm blessed with four. I'm able, through the example of my own life, to teach them the values inherent in inclusivity, tolerance, curiosity and a hunger to learn how this world can be made better by individual efforts.

3. Choice of work. I stayed home to be a full-time mother while my two oldest children were younger. I then taught high school full time until returning to continue my education. Childcare is available to me. I've had so many choices, and my decisions at various stages have been accepted by my family and society. My vote and political activism can influence this society.

4. My life. I was adopted, and am extremely grateful to know that although my maternal biological grandparents offered to raise me, my birth mother ultimately made the choice of adoption for me. She was not coerced; she made her own decision and I think it was the right one. Not without its baggage, adoption, but the knowledge that my birth mother had agency makes the baggage that much lighter for both of us. She had choices. She was rejected as 'marriage material' by my birth father and his family because she is native. She went on to have a good and fulfilling life with a professional career, and eventually - once I found her - rich relationships with my children and me. She made her own choices and landed on her feet, to say the least. She was never cowardly. She is a true warrior. My adoptive mother (my mother) made me see I could do anything. These two women inspire me!!!

5. My partner. My partner is as strong a feminist as one can get, my best friend, confidante, strongest supporter, and the kind of father anyone would wish they had. He instills the sense of possibilities and promise to our two girls and two boys that should rightly be there. He's fair and respectful and gentle and encouraging. I'd accept no less, and neither would he of me. Raised in another age, another place, he would not be who he is, and I would not be who I am.

What has feminism done for you?

8 Comments:

Blogger Scout said...

nice cheez...well done!!! now get pregnant, barefoot and back in the kitchen where you belong :)

12:35 PM  
Blogger nevo said...

That's quite a curriculum vita.
It transpires however that you do not keep the tenets of feminism. Because of your respect and love for your husband and devotion to your children.
You may admire them but you'll never be a feminist.

NEVO

3:32 PM  
Blogger cheezwhiz said...

scout, I'll take the barefoot in the kitchen (love to bake), but would have to sell off my vintage Barbra Streisand album collection to pay for another kid, I'm afraid :)

nevo, huhhh??? Oops, will have to reassess everything! Didn't realize I can't be a feminist and love men, too! Shucks...what to do, what to do...

8:21 PM  
Blogger Scout said...

ah well cheez.....nevo is back in therapy next week so maybe he can address his mommy issues there.

don't ya just love it when little green martians comment and don't know the first thing about feminism? oh well, kindergarden must be fun.

8:34 PM  
Blogger cheezwhiz said...

No, it's ok, Scout, I've asked my "husband" and children to move out so I can be a true feminist... I didn't even know I had a husband, but I asked them all to leave just to be sure, in case I was not properly following the feminism rules.

9:03 PM  
Blogger Sara said...

I did the pros and cons of feminism for me. I thanked the feminists for making my life easier as a woman but found them against me as a mom.

I agree I have childcare available but I don't want to use it. I do not have anything that will subsidize me to be home except $100 a month of course which won't pay for either.

2:35 PM  
Blogger cheezwhiz said...

Thanks for dropping by, Sara. I'm sorry you don't feel supported by feminism. Actually, feminists so support a woman's choice to occupation/lifestyle. I agree that there are pressures felt in society if you stay home to be a full-time mother, for sure. Actually you tend to feel guilty if yoyu do, and then guilty if you don't - pressures from all sides. I believe that's societal pressure, as opposed to feminist pressure at this point.
As for your thoughts on no financial support (except the ridiculous, and clawed back ) child care "program" Harper has put forth, I couldn't agree more. There's a great book by Marilyn WAring called "If Women Counted" (1988, Harper-Collins Publisher) that outlines a new feminist economics (seems off to use "new" when it was written in 1988 and is still not accepted!). There are a couple of chapters that would pertain to your situation directly. Maybe your library has it or could order it for you? It's a great explanation of how our choices as women are not valued if they don't register economically - in other words, if money does not change hands...so staying at home to mother, breast -feeding, even good health is not economically valued. Actually, death is more highly valued in our ecnomic system than health, since in dying we feed the funeral business, etc. THe book was a real eye opener for me, way back when. And maybe I should re-read it, too.

Actually, feminists have been agitating for years for tax adjustments for stay-at-home Moms, as well as for a national childcare program. Our current government is pushing back into the Dark AGes as far as women are concerned, in my opinion.

It's too bad you feel that your identity as a woman and as a Mom are separate! That is, that you feel that as a Mom you are not valued. Also, i'm sorry you think of feminists as "they", as in not including "you"... I want to tell you that feminism is not about dictating what another person should do - it's about supporting differences and tolerance and inclusion. As a feminist myself, I embrace your choice. I made the same choice myself for years. One of the most difficult, and rewarding stages of my life! Don't allow anyone to rob you of the strength of your own convictions - feminism is not about rules. It's about challenging rules. Take care.

4:32 PM  
Blogger Sara said...

I completely agree with you, and thanks for your input.

Feminists as I say did do a lot but the ones out there right now saying only fund daycare are not real feminists for me. Those are the ones I refer to as "they". They research against tax breaks for stay at home parents etc.. and I am forced to fight "them". Real feminists I know are on both sides just like I am but I am not a feminist I am just a mom. That is all I inspire to be and I will die happy because of it.
My children are my life but I do enjoy myself in other ways. If I didn't and I gave 100% day and night I would be insane.

Drop by anytime!

8:40 PM  

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